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Is he still in active duty? Probably not if he can ditch. The fact that he is taking the two dogs shows he still needs companionship. This is going out on a limb, but ask him to consider those moments you shared that told him you were the one he chose as I life partener. That emotion is still there. Dull now, but there. Acting without thinking is also a big sign. Do you have any skills, any connections friends family? Never ever allow yourself to be come so dependent on a person that your physical well being is determined by their actions. So long as you have no pressing medical conditions that should never come into play. Find a job ASAP - MacDonald's, Wall Mart - what ever it takes to make it clear to him that you are not a liability but have stability. Connect with a women's shelter in your area - they have a wealth of information and connections --- do not do this on your own, but cling to other women, here is where your other support will always be when not from him. This is going to be hard, I will not sugar coat it... but you must allow him to choose his own path, that does not mean you are told to follow his course. Make it clear that you do not approve of what he has done, that until he has made it clear by his actions - taking another wife/woman - that you are willing to do what ever it takes to mend the marriage. The key here is keeping your dignity, your self worth. Abandonment is never pretty and there are laws to protect you, each state is different.
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