I honestly do not believe that this site actually promotes bitchng, complaining and bad mouthing of spouses. Yes these do come out here, but I really do think it is in describing situations and venting it out so that we do not explode or relaying a similar situation in our own lives so that someone does not feel as though they are the only one who is having these experiences. Like I said before I think it is a matter of how you CHOOSE to see it. Some of what is posted here can sound negative, but sometimes those situations described are pretty negative and I'm sure everyone (at least most) are looking for a more positive way of coping. and turning things around for the better. I think it is ridiculous to say that using the term DH is negative. It is meant to be dear husband, jokingly a few people (when very upset) have coined a few other choice terms, but is not how they feel all or most of the time. Again how you choose to view it.