Bambi - I could not agree more. I won't even use the term DH since so many people have a negative for that and I think it is awful. However, you might want to keep in mind this is not a therapist's office where one has to be fair. This site does absolutely promote some bitching, complaining, and bad mouthing about a spouse, but it is to vent so we don not explode. Some people have no other out let or healthly way to deal and they have no exposure to other people in their situation. If you could try to keep an open mind and see this safe place for what it is it may help. I do know what you are saying, I do see this place as being at times very negative towards spouses, and a real bitch fest, but I moved past that to gleen some ( no more than some) fantastic support and advice. My advice to you is FILTER. Take in what works for you and ignore the crap. This is a public forum, try to keep that in mind.