Oh you already sound a little more hopeful I think MrsP. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and I promise it will work out!

Is your Dh a very prideful man when it comes to supporting his family? This is underhanded, but it worked for me... when things were at their worst and we were paying bills with my credit card and wondering where we were going to get our rent next month, I told him I thought it was time for us to go to the welfare office and get food stamps or something like that. Try to find some sort of assistance (I didn't intend to do this, I just knew it would kick his booty into job searching more - I stll laugh cause I had a job and he didn't at this point all be it mine was part time). Well, the next week he had two interviews, about 3 weeks later he had his current job. :) He wasn't a computer junky, he was a drinker/exerciser/partier. But that ended and he went and got a job. So maybe you can suggest this to your DH and see what happens???

Oh I hope something pans out for you soon! I've been thinking of you!

Oh another thing that I wish I'd known - he probably can't help it. Ex was paralized and so messed up - he couldn't help that he didn't want to do anything but decompress. But he refuesed to get help and so there was no choice - sink or swim. Your dh is probably the same way - so love, try not to resent him, and look at it like unfortunately the hard times in a marriage happened early on for you two - i wish I'd known as much about what was goign on with ex as you know about your DH. I would have stepped up to the plate more and just kind of lead our family in the fight.

Only 2 defining forces have ever offered to die for you....Jesus Christ and the American Soldier. One died for your soul, the other for your freedom.