Awe LovePeace I think what you said is wonderful. That is the first step toward boundaries, now the hard part is sticking to that. You sound unhappy - I think your post was saying you are, right? Well, then YOU have to do something to change it for yourself too (like you told DH) and your talk with him was the first step. You communicated, you said it mean and not meanly (like Dani was saying) and you were kind and respectful. Now its up to you to stop trying to make him happy and to let him figure out how to make himself happy on his own.

It is scary when you say that to the man you love - but like you said... he married you didn't he? :) A little sticking up for yourself and your own happiness isn't going to scare him away. :)

Only 2 defining forces have ever offered to die for you....Jesus Christ and the American Soldier. One died for your soul, the other for your freedom.