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Aug 30 09 10:33 AM
Bambi.....I am sorry you do not feel this is a site for you. I attempted to reply in your other post about this wild experience not all to include myself could sent out "great " vibes. I am going through a meltdown.....and without any certainty at all I can tell you it is not of my own fault. As my health ridden combat PTSD Vet is working through this one I will not back down allowing him any remote idea that his actions constitute my accepting any blame for his absolute poor behavior.That is a boundary.
Is this negative thinking upon my part? Certainly not! It is the hardest toughest love there can be. I have to set the bar not allowing him to fly under the radar. Sometimes we may be Molly, Sally , or even Jack the Ripper himself. Not too many years ago I was a major vent er.....and it was these very special ladies whom allowed me to "let go letting it all hang out" which was instrumental in being the person I am today. They help me keep my sanity. Their answers back to me were not of the rosy nature. They contained harsh loving words of wisdom that helped me get through one of the roughest times of my life. I give them due credit for personally saving my life. I was drowning ! Everyone here walks a different path but the jest of the paths have many similarities. We are all dealing with our loved ones having been sent to a combat zone returning a broken different man than he ever was before. Not only is he broken but then we have to work with a very broken system trying with all the might we process to get them all the help they so desperately are in need of. The path is not all roses.......there are thorns. The will be times when the thorn rips our hearts out and many of us here having been down that path responds to their call of pain. Just as our men were in the trenches of combat we as wives have our trenches in our daily lives when they relive their horrible situations. I am sorry you felt all the negativity was not good but it a reality of life. I pray your positive thinking is everything you think it will be. Nakiea
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