LOL Dani, Molly Moonshine. :) Call me Sally Sunshine... :)

Bambi I have a feeling your mind might change if you stick around and get to know all of us a little better. Some of us here are or were in truly traumatic situations, its very hard to feel anything good when the love of your life is kicking you down every day. Most of us have times when our DHs wear us out. I can tell you the negativity we may expell here, it serves a purpose because this place, this is the one place we can throw up our emotions (that's what I call it when you let out things you'd rather not let the whole world see, but need to get out - emotional vomiting) - we can do that here and no one will judge us. We can call our DH's stinking a holes, say our mother in laws are b*tches on wheels, scream about how he is ignoring us again, has left us again, has hit us again, has lost another job, has gotten another DUI, has been hospitalized again, has been caught cheating on us again, etc.... we can say how all of that really makes us feel - angry! (we have a right to be angry at the stuff we go through) - and no one here would ever ever judge our words, because I think everyone here knows that we all love our DHs very very much. Not one of us would be here if we didn't.

I've always said I love when the site is quiet because it means eveyrone is doing well. Its kind of like therapy - if you were fabulously happy, in love, had a great job, emotionally very very stable, fulfilled and all put together in your life, would you go to a therapist? No, most people wouldn't. So I think most women don't post the great stuff here because, well - no one needs help with the awesome times in our lives. We need help with the hard times, that only our fellow sisters understand, because only a fellow sister knows what its like to love, to the depths of your soul, a man suffering from combat ptsd.

I'm sorry to hear the decision you made. Its a shame. I think you had a lot to offer our group. But every person has to find their own way to healing in this world, and if our support group isn't helping and is only holding you down, then by all means move on and know that we all wish you the best and hope you find a place that works for you.

Only 2 defining forces have ever offered to die for you....Jesus Christ and the American Soldier. One died for your soul, the other for your freedom.