Wow, reading these posts this morning just feels surreal to me. Ex is a workaholic, and JinJin it is by far THE BIGGEST trigger for him to not be working. Even before he left where he just was to come home, he said he wants to take 3 months off. I told him I didn't think that was a good idea because of how he acts when he has time off - and sure enough... we all know what he's doing now.

And Dani... I HATED when ex would get like that. I'd be sitting there pouring my guts out all over him, just begging him to please talk to me about this, come up with a plan, work it thorugh and he'd get that damn 100 yard stare and just not say a word. In the end it would make me so mad I'm actually surprised I didn't smack him. Today I realize that what he was doing was uterrly, completely, and totally disrespecting me. And it disgusts me! I'm so glad you said that to him about being disrespectful and I'm even more glad that it registered for him. Let him think on it for a while... hopefully he gets the point and starts to pull it back together.

Sorry you're having a hard time! :(

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