jin, he does the lying over money too. We don't have alot of it to lie about but it's usually over where he has eaten that day for lunch. Stupid, stupid stuff. I mean, if he is gonna lie about a freakin Mtn dew and a lunch at Ruby Tuesdays, what will this lead to?? That's why I felt punched in the gut. I told him, look pal, I won't search thru your stuff, if I happen to come across stuff, such as the VA letter or credit card statement, then fine, but you're a grown up...stop lying. People in general will lie because they have little faith that the other person can handle the truth OR they want to avoid confrontation. Either way out, is bullcrap, IMO.

Lovepeace~my dh says that all the time. "I dont' know what to say" Or, he says "I don't know what you want me to say"....that is the stupidist response in the world. Shit, I can't speak for the both of us...what I want you to say.....But I will say, that for the first dozen years he actually fell asleep during most of these talks. Atleast now with the Cpap machine, and good rest, he is alert for our conversations. Hey theres the first positive thing I could conjure up! He is awake atleast. Small blessings! image