Dani, I have noticed that you have been quiet, I know the softball and all was going on. I do not think your posts were nonsensical. When the time to vent comes who cares? Its the need to get it out there. I think its time you called dh out on his small little white lies because to me a lie is lie, be it a small little white or a flaming huge red one. And in your marriage and family there is no room for that. My dh lied so many years about his money spending. Its a boundary issue again, he can't neglect his health when he has a family. Who knows it could be something he is afraid of and is not willing to admit it? Big strong men never want to appear to be failing in anyway shape or form. He could be using the job to avoid it .You need a Dani and Pat day to talk. Keep your chin up because your are stronger than before.

Reality is determined not by what scientists or anyone else says or believes but by what the evidence reveals to us.
-- Alan Hale

Edited 1 time by vickia1969 Aug 28 09 8:07 PM.