he will not move out because he feels comfortable and safe there. no responsibilities. the only advantage to moving is a better relationship with you and PTSD may be getting in the way of him pursuing a close relationship. he may be more comfortable with his family in the way so the focus is not the way he treats you and the kind of husband that he is. where do you two live? i'm in jersey and i don't think buying a big home right now is smart or feasable. if you can get a starter home you are luckier than most. i still live in the first home we bought. it's small and afordable.

my husband served in the army for 21 years. as soon as he retired from that he found himself a great job. he also worked tirelessly on this house we bought (it was a fixer upper). he could do anything and smile through it. he was amazeing. just over two years ago, whe his ptsd started up he stopped doing anything. he cant work. he went on disability and is now waiting for permanent state disability. he cant do anything around the house. and he never smiles. so i guess my advice on the work thing is to try to figure out if he's lazy or if he's having such a hard time with it, that he can't work.

and learn to ACCEPT the new him.