I can attest to excessive spending and ebay addiction. We live in the house I bought when I ws 21. 32 years ago. He always had a very good paying job but there was an allowance I got from him. Mind you I always worked also. But I never had extra money for fun things. He maxed out credit cards never paid for them, got his bank account garnished and his paycheck garnished on more than one occaison. He worked though. And I worked. Since he was knocked out by PTSD and depression the spending has slowed down and he now has an allowance. But I can tell you it took a great toll on me. There is not much you can control about what he is doing. I would use what the ladies call bounderies. These are things you will not tolerate from him. I for one would make taking the computer to bed one of the first. That is just 3rd party in your bed. Something else taking his attention. Your mil is another issue. I have never had one so I have no insight on how to deal with one. I am glad you are venting this is a great place for it. But as always do take care of you and focus on what you can control.


Reality is determined not by what scientists or anyone else says or believes but by what the evidence reveals to us.
-- Alan Hale