MrsP,
Ranting helps.....it really does.The is one of the very reason we are here.
You are in a rut. Your sleep pattern is being affected by all the turmoil. It then effects every other aspect of your life. Right now with being unemployed you most likely have no insurance. Contact a local Mental Health Center and make an APPOINTMENT. If you have insurance call your doctor. You have to take care of you before you can help anyone else. Most of us here have been or on some type of medication to help us deal with this. I call them "my I can live with Richard happy pills.' When you can get back into a sleep pattern your brain can them function better. Not that your brain is not functioning but it is on overload.

My dh never gets on the computer and very seldom talks on a telephone. However, this does seem to be on the more common problems. Excessive spending of money ranks right up there too. The list goes on and on......

My suggestion would be to look for yourself . When you find that place you can afford then present i to him. While he says ya'll can't afford a place you then need to say for the sake of this marriage can we not afford it? You want to have a daughter-in law / mother -in-law relationship with his mother. You do not want her to be your landlord or dwelling manager. Two women can not share a kitchen. A home is a very personal space and by golly it is time you both have your own personal space. Then you have to stay strong.

Staying strong is a problem I have. I build up my fort then the next thing I know I left the draw bridge open so he can stomp right in doing his own thing. So see we are do the same things. Not only in many ways are we married to the same man but these men are married to the same women. The site has given me the strength on working on overcoming this problem.

You hand in there girl......you vent , rant and rave anytime you need to . We are all here for you.

Nakiea