The way I am taking it is, I am actually relieved. I know that sounds weird but I feel like, now I don't have to deal with her at all, I don't have to be fake around her, I don't have to wonder what she will do, etc. I did respond and tell her that she had some growing to do and that she had turned out exactly like her mother, maybe not so nice but well, I'm not perfect and I did feel attacked. Yes, there is a lot of history behind her and how she got the way she is (and not all of it is her dad either). No doubt growing up with an undiagnosed PTSD dad didn't help, HOWEVER, at some point we all have to come to grips with the life we have been dealt. I have known her dad for a long time and he really did try to acknowledge what had happened to him, why he was angry all the time when she grew up and tried to make amends for it. And her mother definitely contributed to fueling her fire. My dad wasn't perfect (alcoholic) either and I learned to forgive him. There is certainly a lesson here about PTSD and children and making sure the parent is diagnosed early and gets treatment so that the kids can understand and also that the kids get help. Obviously, she needs counseling to deal with her anger.


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