Wow, bitter much?

I am almost 35 yrs old. My parents were far far far from perfect, even though they were supposed to be, right? I learned a long hard lesson a few yrs ago. I would rather have them in my everyday life (which now is over the phone bc we live far apart) being as screwed up as they are than not in my life at all. The latter is too painful.

Does your stepdaughter have children? Was her mother really scorned by the divorce? It sounds to me like some parental alienation happened (at the hands of ex wife) in regards to your dh. That is the downfall of divorce. But for a 36 yr old to say cruel things such as "he deserves this" Oh, boy that is a smack-her in the face moment, if she were standing there of course.

Someday she will live to regret not speaking to her dad. Whether she ever admits it aloud is another story but the regrets will be hers to own. Life is too short.