Hang in there, I know its easier said than done, maybe we need a retreat during anniversary times. My dh's anniversary's are all over the place. His worst is around Thanksgiving. He turned 19 in one of the biggest battles of Vietnam the Battle of Dak To Hill 875. The 173rd Airborne aka the Herd, had huge losses including a accidental friendly fire incident that killed 30 troops.

Get out and away as much as possible at this time. Field trips with the kids maybe. Make up errands for your dh. I don't know.

Reality is determined not by what scientists or anyone else says or believes but by what the evidence reveals to us.
-- Alan Hale