Chickerita,
I can understand your issues. they are real and you have real feelings concerning all of them. On the children issue I can say I have had  Day Care parents of all ages.....and in a few cases parents who had a planned family while they were young and the unplanned stork arrived well after most of the kids were in High School. It can be a blessing either way........but that choice is up to you and him to make.

Counseling may be of help her. The communication is there but the understanding of the words may be just have a bit of difference in  the definition. What he feels is there is not necessarily the same definition you have when speaking of having children and the Family role involvement.  A Mediator ( I perfer a paid one) is the go between who has nothing invested either way so they can offer an unbaised viewpoint collecting information where communication of both parties can come to an understanding. A Mediator can many times be the one who can bring two languages of a family into the understanding of what each other is really saying.

Nakiea

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