Thanks ladies. Yesterday I checked in with another friend who has offered her house as a safe house and its one where I can stay permanently with my daughter, so I am fortunate to have a really good alternative to staying here, and it puts my mind at ease and helps me feel in control of the situation. Yesterday I dusted off my resume and applied for a job. So I am preparing for the possibility that we'll be separating. I talked to him last night and he was totally shut down ("I have nothing to say"). But that's just too bad, isn't it? He doesn't get a hall pass on this one. What little he did say tried to blame me for this, because I didn't train the dog, because I insisted on pointing out his weakness which he is all too well aware of. Because I am the one that has a problem with him, and I am the one that wants him to change. I told him I have changed a lot for the sake of our marriage. I told him I do accept him, but he has a problem that needs to be worked on. We have a daughter who is a young child that cannot be exposed to this type of thing. I am not the one breaking things. My daughter needs her father, and I have not left yet because I want her to have him and I do not want to be without him either. But if he isn't even willing to talk to me, I cannot stay. I told him all that and then said I would pack up our things and we'd be gone when he got home tomorrow. Then I slept in the spare bed, and he popped his head in this morning asking if I could stick around a few more days so we could talk. Okay.