Thank you for your responses! It is amazing how much it helps to vent a bit! He finally took my advice and called his bank to deal with the debit card issue. surprise surprise, it turned out to be really easy to deal with! After only a little pestering, he's agreed to take me on a date tomorrow evening instead of just playing his game all night. I'm trying to just appreciate that and not think too far ahead to the next time our paths don't cross for several days.

One of his biggest PTSD symptoms is depression. He has sleeping pills but he doesn't do well with them. They tend to cause really odd behavior (including being really nasty) and memory loss. The newest ones they gave him are the worst: in addition to all that, they made him sleep for almost 2 days straight. He does see a counselor at the VA and it helps a lot. The appointments also give him a reason to get out of bed and keep his sleep schedule in check, but this month he has 3 weeks between appointments... it's gunna be a rocky month...

Thank you again for your advice and support and do let me know if that book is worth reading!