Megan, I just reread your post and I realize the "debit card" thing is also a problem!! I guess, on that I see that his priorities are somewhat screwed up BUT that is also a part of the whole PTSD thing!! The fact that you mentioned him staying up for nine hours playing a "war game" is also significant as you spoke about him wanting to reach a certain goal!! He probably is reliving some of his war experiences through the game and that may as Breathe said, be part of a depression!! You did not mention whether he is seeing a counselor or psychiatrist and that may be in order not did you mention whether he is taking any kind of medications which could be the culprit too!! Do watch what medications he may be being given as the side effects sometimes are worse than what they are being used to treat!! I wish I was better at advising you BUT hang in there from what I read in your bio I think you two might just be worth it!! Do remember to think of and take care of yourself too!!