I totally agree with JinJin - transferance. Ex was the same way (but we rented so it wasn't that big of a deal). But I read "The Dance of Anger" and it realllllly helped me with this - not just with ex but with all facits of my life where you find situatins where you have to work as a team and one or more members of the team don't pull their own weight or can't accept responsibility.

To blame is a very ptsd symptom, and the whole "yours"/"mine" thing is probably related to that.

As far as when you know its time to go... you'll know, you won't need to ask if its time. You'll just know. Also, i don't suggest making that decision in the middle of projects that bring stress - wait for the stress to blow (if its something that has an end, like the fence being finished) then let yourself think on it with a clearer head.

Hang in there!!!

Only 2 defining forces have ever offered to die for you....Jesus Christ and the American Soldier. One died for your soul, the other for your freedom.