I've asked my hd about why he starts things then leaves them unfinished - and heaven's' help me if its "my' project - even if its to be used by us both. I have an electric garage door opener that has never been installed, lights that have never been hung in the garage and whole bunch of other projects which I cannot do on my own. If he worked or had some physical limitations I would understand - but he does not. To make matters worse he won't allow anyone outside to finish these projects either. So I park outside in the ice and snow and seldom bother to use the garage - why should I when you can't see anything out there anyway? Yet he will shovel the snow off the driveway and sweeps away the rotting crab apples when they fall. I finally got an answer from him - for what ever its worth - he claims that while in the Navy he was under almost constant stress - extreme stress was placed on the men to always get it right the first time - no independent thinking - doing it wrong even on something minor could lead to someones death and being on a ship that could mean all of them. I am sure this unified company mentality was used a lot in all branches of the service as it was and is critical to maintain control. As odd as it seems, its as if the seeking of perfection finally burns these guys out, they just quit trying as it is less painful. How to heck does a person shift  that sort of thinking anyway?