I have to say that I do live with unfinished projects and such. My unfinished kitchen for over 3 years. It is usable and the stuff to finish it are cosmetic stuff. He just today cut up a cardbord box that had been on the deck for 4 months. He says he wants to paint his bunker and needs paint and primer. He never wants to go and get it though. I understand about him not wanting to be around crowds but heck he won't go during the week either. You have a tough decision and of course its up to you on what you will or will not continue to tolerate. You can't change him, but you can change what you will accept. I think some of us have often thought about calling it a day and moving on, then something comes along and changes your mind. It can be something as simple as him just coming up and hugging you and saying I love you for no reason. I started back to work last week and my dh is at the door kissing me goodbye in the morning and greets me with a kiss when I walk  in. He is a wonderful man, but then some days he will not leave his room but to walk the dog, he will do nothing at all. Good luck and keep coming to the site and venting

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